I have been able to build network-marketing businesses from Tokyo to Taipei, across all 50 states, throughout Spanish speaking regions and into Europe. No matter where you are in the world or what techniques and philosophies you use, the big builders always have one thing common; they are all self-reliant.

Many times new people join network marketing hoping to strike it rich, but because of fear and lack of experience they never get much done unless their upline does it for them. This period of dependence on others must be for a short time if you want to truly succeed.

Author William George Jordan stated it clearly when he said, “The world is busy with its own cares, sorrows and joys, and pays little heed to you. There is but one great password to success, self-reliance.”

Self-reliance in network marketing requires work. You will be tested mentally, emotionally and even physically. Hard work is essential because it will give you a sense of accomplishment, self worth and is required for you to have the success you are searching for.

If you want to become a mentor to others, you will have to be prepared and nothing prepares you to lead others like overcoming challenges and taking on your own fears. How can you inspire others if everything was done for you? For you to truly help others you cannot be an empty, weak person. And, if you want to go from zero to hero, you can’t do it from the couch.

People want to be inspired. They want to have fun. People want to have good experiences with people that build them up. For you to be a contributor and leader, you must make a decision to add to people’s lives, not take from them. We all have problems and challenges, the way you handle them is what will determine if you are a true leader or not.

In order to become self-reliant, you need to see yourself as important and worthy of success regardless of past experience, career status, where you live or any other limiting circumstance.

Second, you need to make sure that you have a mentor that will guide you but also honestly critique and challenge you. A true mentor wants you to become somebody great and will encourage you to stretch beyond your previous limits.

Third, remember that everybody who joins your team has their own challenges and a choice to do what they want. When a motivated new entrepreneur joins network marketing he or she is often bewildered that others aren’t as motivated. Your team will have to make their own decision to grow and you cannot force them to become leaders.

Next time you get frustrated with someone who is not making the decision to build your network marketing business, remember what Benjamin Franklin said concerning choices:

“We stand at the crossroads, each minute, each hour, each day, making choices. We choose the thoughts we allow ourselves to think, the passions we allow ourselves to feel, and the actions we allow ourselves to perform. Each choice is made in the context of whatever value system we’ve selected to govern our lives. In selecting that value system, we are, in a very real way, making the most important choice we will ever make.

Since the foundation of all happiness is thinking rightly, and since correct action is dependent on correct opinion, we cannot be too careful in choosing the value system we allow to govern our thoughts and actions.

And to know that God governs in the affairs of men, that he hears and answers prayers, and that he is a rewarder of them that diligently seek Him, is indeed, a powerful regulator of human conduct.”

Fourth, you must learn and eventually master the ability to think properly. As Franklin said, “The foundation of all happiness is thinking rightly.” Proper thinking is vital when your team comes to you with their problems. It is also vital as you encounter your own challenges and you are forced to confront them instead of running in panic.

Learn to solve problems and use common sense. Lord Chesterfield said, “Common sense (which, in truth, is very uncommon) is the best sense I know of: abide by it; it will counsel you best.” Most people panic because they simply can’t think straight, they don’t use common sense and are governed by passion and anger when calm is required.

If you cannot learn to think properly and use common sense, you will never become a true leader.  You will also never change your life enough to become self-reliant financially.

Learn to listen to your mentors. Spend time improving your mental, physical and emotional health. As you put the pieces of your life together, self-reliance is inevitable. Be patient and seek help from other leaders and definitely seek spiritual guidance. Self-reliance is an individual choice, but it also helps to have others on your team that truly care about you.

If you are new to network marketing, the sooner you become self-reliant, the sooner you will have a chance to succeed. You CAN succeed in network marketing, but you better take responsibility for your future. Only you can make the decision to constantly improve and become truly self-reliant.